I will not be married until I become something
Today's generation has a thought that being married is
something that can stop them from achieving their dreams. Especially, nowadays
girls are not getting married until they complete their studies or set a
career. Their first priority has now changed to establishing a career rather
than marrying at a suitable age.
But why such stupid thinking has seized our minds? Because
we think after getting married our freedom, our fantasies, our dreams will be
over and we will have to dedicate our life for others. Marriage is the name of an adventure full of responsibilities, sacrifice, companionship, understanding, to
forgive and forget and to live for your family by forgetting yourself
completely.
As a girl, most of us think that marriage means depending on
someone for support and to end our freedom and live in a cage of darkness and
anguish. Because singlehood has its own charm, we live in a life without
responsibilities, where no one restricts us, where we don’t think about others,
this is the life where you are responsible for taking care of yourself, you have
your own privacy, your own dreams to follow.
This type of thinking perished our society because when
proposals came girls think of such stereotypes and refuse to marry and instead
she follows what her heart and the stereotype (Check out our complete article on How Stereotype Works) taught her and when she gets the
degree sets a career, and establish herself as an entrepreneur she reached in
her 30s’ and all she gets then are the proposals of men of 40’s or older than
that. Sometimes the man who is divorced or have children almost of her own age.
Which may result in no marriage or marriage with compromise, every girl has a dream that the man whom she gets married to would be handsome, good in
appearance and befriend her which might not be possible after the ’30s.
Well, I am going to share my experience what I wanted to be
and what I became so, my story begins. Hello, my name's Ayesha and I belong to
a family where my parents want me to get higher education and become something
great, as I grew up my father and my mother always treats me as a friend, they
take care of every need of mine. A girl living in her father house is like
heaven on earth no one is harsh on you scold you, you live in your own
fantasies, follow your own rules, live life as you want. Free from all kind of
tensions, problems. Because in the end you know if you fall in the trap of any
kind your parents would be there for you to pull you out from any kind of pits.
You are living on your own, interacting with all different types of people all
while gaining new experiences.
So, I also had a dream of studying more and more and I was very conscious about my studies, but after some circumstances, I had to commit myself into a relationship, my father got seriously ill. Doctors diagnosed him multiple myeloma after all as I’m older one my father wants to see me as a bride but when he first expressed his feelings to me I wasn't ready for it because I have my own dreams I was in university and my 2nd year has ended and the third year would be starting soo but before I enter my 3rd year I have to begin my married life.
Internally I was very disheartened because my father served
for me since my KG’s to my university life when the time was so near to give
him a result and I was very near to my destination I had to end my studies and
get married.
A good marriage is a contest of generosity
But whatever I have thought it went totally opposite my
husband loves me so much he allowed me to continue my studies after a week of
marriage and my mother in law, what should I write about her she is an amazing
woman. As the word mother in law seems like a woman full of aggression, danger
or a monster but my mother in law has completely changed the definition of it.
She is a gift from ALLAH to me, she supports me she understands me and helps me
out in every situation whenever I need her. My husband is a precious gift
because without him I could not continue my university. if I’m studying my
father is the reason, he is my inspiration I want to give him something worthy
and after my father supports my husband became another hand, He is everything
to me.
My perception of my life has changed if you get the right
man at the right time you will succeed in your life because this is the real
success of life. As I lost hope of fulfilling my dreams but it did not happen
as the way I thought so losing hope is the biggest defeat of ours. As a result,
concluded that never lose hope and as married life has its own fantasies it
depends on your partner how he treats you.
P.S Note: -
These Are The Comments From Me That Is Rameen
[These are the experiences Syeda Ayesha Tahir has faced in
her life. However, there are always two sides to a coin. The other side of
marriages will be discussed soon In Shaa Allah and I believe it's a topic we
should talk about in detail.]
2 Comments
As a sign of gratitude for how my wife was saved from myeloma, i decided to reach out to those still suffering from this.
ReplyDeleteMy wife suffered myeloma in the year 2016 and it was really tough and heartbreaking for me because she was my all and the symptoms were terrible, she always complain of bone pain, and she always have difficulty falling asleep . we tried various therapies prescribed by our neurologist but none could cure her. I searched for a cure and i saw a testimony by someone who was cured and so many other with similar body problem, and they left the contact of this doctor who had the cure to myeloma . I never imagined myeloma has a natural cure not until i contacted him and he assured me my wife will be fine. I got the herbal medication he recommended and my wife used it and in one months time she was fully okay even up till this moment she is so full of life. myeloma has a cure and it is a herbal cure contact the doctor for more info on drwilliams098675@gmail.com on how to get the medication. Thanks admin for such an informative blog.
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